The talk

I had my second session. We talked about what I wanted out of counselling and issues with my husband. I feel since he has been in counselling for over a year and only a few things have changed whats the point. Are marriage is still at a dead end. He doesn't see it that way. He thinks everything is fine and dandy. Which I don't understand. He reads into other things so much and thinks the worse of every other situation. Why does our marriage not make him worry? Any way the therapist asked me if I talk to him about what my issues are. I told her when I do say something he says OK he understands but a few days later we are back to the same old same old. So what is the point of saying anything. She thinks it may be a communication skills.
Well I tried yesterday and told him how I feel I do everything for him. I go out of my way to do things that will make him happy or do things to not get him upset. How I worry when he gets in my car that the car is not to dirty or that he wont have to fiddle with the radio to find his station. I explained that he wont even do little things for me. Unless its also something he is into also.
I guess we have to wait and see what happens.

Therapy session

Well I had my first therapy session. The first session is mostly about your family history. Then you talk a little about what you want to get out therapy. This is called your goals. As I was talking to my therapist, I realized that I have more issues that need to be address then what I thought I did. You go in thinking its not me its him. Well I need to work on me. I believe I like this therapist better then my husbands. I am looking forward to my next session. I am hoping that fixing myself will help fix my marriage.

Therapy today

I have been reading my "Excuse begone" book and was been very positive. Till, I got home one night and my husband was awake. It only took him 15 minutes to knock me on my ass. He is so full of negative thoughts. I tried so hard to keep thinking positive but the more he talked the more it just faded away. I don't know if reading this book is going to show me that I can get past his negativing thinking, or I need to leave him.
Today is his therapy appt. He suppose to ask the therapist if we can go separately to her or do we need separate therapist. I just know him going by himself is not working.