Working nights

Well I have to work nights for awhile. For some reason this cause much discord in my home. My husband and son say that it is difficult for them when I am not there. I drag out the crock pot so they have a cooked meal when they get home. My son doesn't like dad being the boss. Sometimes I don't blame him. I feel guilty working nights, but then again I kinda like having the mornings to myself. I get alot more done. Plus its less time listening to all the whining (from both of them). My son spends half the night in his room playing xbox and my husband comes home from work and sits on the couch watching TV till its time to go to bed. When I am home and want a little time by myself I will go upstairs and use my laptop. Next thing I know here he comes upstairs and says what you doing? He also started this thing where he has to go everywhere with me. Oh My God!!!!!! What a pain in the a$$. I got lucky this last weekend cause he was sick. So I got to go food shopping with out him. But yet still cursed cause it was a three day weekend. So working nights for awhile might just be what I need.

Better

We had are therapy appointment and was a good one. We were able to see some of my husbands triggers. Alot of it has to do with his brother. I also think so many things have gone wrong its hard to look for the positive. He knows these are not excuses and that he needs to keep going. I really think he likes going. He needs that person to talk to to get everything off his chest. I need to learn to be patient and to word things a little differently. After years giving back what you get its hard to let that part go. If I dont change then I cant expect him to.

Driving

The other day I called my husband before I left work to say I needed to run to some stores on the way. He said no we will go together since we were going out that night. So I said OK. Well on are way to the last stop we were at a traffic light. Two cars were coming from the opposite direction with their blinker lights on. My husband was just sitting there waiting and finally notice they were turning. Then he got mad and said the guy waited to the last minute to turn on his turn signal. I said he had it on the whole time. Well you would think I accused him of killing someone. Then later he stated that maybe he really didn't want to do all that running around or maybe it was just his pride. I side with the pride. Tonight we go to therapy. Hope it helps!